When To Get Out Of A Relationship

Unhappy with your relationship but not sure whether you should keep trying or not? Here's when to split: A dozen sound reasons for getting out of a relationship: 1. If You've Been Hurt Physically Temporary Insanity may have worked for Lorena Bobbitt, but you're not running a court of law. Ignore excuses and apologies; if violence has surfaced, it will surface again. Get out at the very first strike. 2. When You're Totally Incompatible If your lover's dream is to drop out and become self- sufficient on a farm somewhere, and you're a city person with ambitions, one of you is going to be seriously unhappy if you stay together. Or, if you always want to go out and he or she always wants to stay home, look for someone whose social style is closer to yours. 3. When He Or She Isn't Even Close To Your Fantasy If you're a longtime luckless single, you may be tempted to stay with someone just because they're available and willing, but don't do it. He or she has to turn you on somewhat; there has to be some chemistry and some future. 4. When He Or She Just Can't Say "I Love You" Even if there's chemistry, if someone can't express their love for you with affectionate gestures, nurturing, and the magic words, "I love you," you'll never feel really satisfied with them. See "The Broken Popcorn Machine Parable." 5. When He Or She Is Just Not There For You If you've been dating for more than six months and you can't count on him or her to come and get you if your car breaks down, or to be your date for New Year's Eve, or even to feed your goldfish when you're away on a business trip, then you don't have a solid relationship. 6. When You're Afraid To Express Yourself Being in love should bring out the best in you. It should help you be less self-conscious and make you more open and alive. If instead, you worry that you'll upset the applecart if you say what you think, or if you're afraid that the least little thing will destroy the delicate balance you've achieved, or if you feel like you're walking on eggs all the time, get out. 7. When Your Self-esteem Is Suffering If your relationship is demeaning, makes you feel bad about yourself, leaves you feeling like you're never listened to, and you're getting more criticism than praise, then it's time to get out. A good relationship makes you feel respected and loved, worthwhile and good about yourself. 8. When He Or She Is A Philanderer Philanderers usually leave track records behind them (see "Qualifying Someone"). If you discover your mate has that kind of history, don't believe "never again." The heartache and torment will never end. And in the age of AIDS, any kind of a sex life with an unfaithful mate means condoms forever. Who needs this? 9. When He Or She Commits An Unforgiveable Act. There are single acts which are so beyond the pale that they should mean THE END. If he or she sleeps with your best friend, stands you up at the altar, or commits murder, dump him or her with no second chances. Even if you were to able to forgive, your self-esteem would never recover, and you'd still always be angry at him or her underneath. 10. When The Same Problems Recur Sadly, loving someone doesn't alway guarantee that you can happily spend the rest of your lives together. If you've broken up and gotten back together, and you're still having the same fights, the same problems or different versions of the same problem, especially if you've tried relationship counseling, then give up and find someone else. 11. When He Or She Says "I Need Some Space" The relationship seems to have stalled, and then your partner mumbles something like, "I want time," or "I want space," or "I want to date," or "I need to devote myself to my career." Almost always, what he or she means is, "I want out." These things happen. Don't drag it out. Say, "Sounds like you want to break up. I'm sorry you feel that way, but I understand. I hope we can remain friends." 12. When The Relationship Just Doesn't Progress Relationships have a natural progression. If you're not progressing and you can't pinpoint the cause, you might want to try relationship counseling. However, if he or she won't go, and things don't improve, the relationship is coming to an end. Again, these things happen. Don't drag it out. Courtesy: Dr. Tracy... This is her advice... And friends... ain't it just the truth... wake up...

Be your self...

You can fight with me,
You can be naughty,
You can be talkative,
But never be someone else...
For you are my girl whom I loved..

I loved you the way you are...
I care for you for the way you are..
I miss you for what you were..
Love me.. Just me..
For I have learned to love, just you

You are sweet But I hate when you shout,
I know to yell, but hate it in our relation,
This is no poem, its my thoughts for our relation
Lets step up to a relation that be envied..
But never let it break..

Let the God teach us to compromise,
Let the God plan our future,
for we are just few special ones of his garden
Don't be submissive for I respect you,
Don't be superior for I need respect.

Parents are the ones that brought us up,
We shall live a life but would never hurt them.
We would be blessed with kids,
Then we would show them the world,
We live and we will be the best...
Love you, love our family.. We are blessed...

I can see immaturity bleed...

Life is much better now..
there is no wall to separate...
i can now see things more clear...
my eyes have now gained its lost powers...
i can make out things...

i believe i have now understood the things happening to me...
i believe my immaturity have been slaughtered...
i can see it bleed...
i can see it loose...
i have gained a new step in life..

a new door has opened up..
through which i would pass..
this time i wont be passing alone..
i have a person whom i trust..
a person who would trust me more than any...

Dumb sayings...

Sometimes to win a war, it is wise to be unequipped
and to have your opponent equipped.

The best moments of life are only realized
when you have troubles in life.

In love there are no alternatives.
We live and love for one love; for that is true love.

Birth and Death are two faces of the same coin
which shall never meet.

Death for the dead would be a comfort,
but for the world he gifts pain.

If you can sing aloud you can keep your fear away,
for even the devils would be on guard.

There is no love without sacrifice,
for every moment in love one has to sacrifice something precious.

To gain someones heart,
never break the heart which you already have.

The pain of a heart break can be overcome
with a series of heart breaks.

Stand up from the fall if you can,
or stay flat and prepare for a giant leap.

Love brings a smile, but takes it away before you realize,
When you win the smile of a needy, it wins blessings and joy..

Smile even if others dont...
For it would make you feel better on long run...

I pray not to live long...
But to live a worthy life...

Nation is build with pain and blood,
Why stain it's glory with the blood of innocent.

The Raven shall not die...
Never brood, win the Raven...

Love is never lost, It just fades in ones heart
but the fragrance remain...

This is life... Play hard, there are no loosers,no gainers...
only better players...

At times loose yourself to your opponent
so that you can learn his strength and can strike back... Real hard...

True love is a myth...
A myth which you tend to believe more than yourself...

A teacher teaches to his students not what the text book says...

He teaches them the lessons to excel in life.. Real lessons are not in books.


World shall only end if we want it to... else it continue to exist 
to bless our life with sorrow and happiness for they are always relative


Love is forgiving, forgetting the moments that hurt 
and cherishing the best moments together...


If I didn't want to see you happy,
I wouldn't have made myself a fool..

‎"Be yourself and be the change you always wanted...
Dont change yourself for others."
I hav heard this a lot. but I wud say,
Cry not if u r d weakness of your dear ones.
Fear none but for God for he is d only one to play games with you.
When you are in safe hands of someone who care u,
dont look around for better hands.
Fear not of loosing, but praise lord for placing u in safe hands,
for he only can make the hands strong..

Fear not the ones who believe in God cause they mean no harm.
You may fear the ones who does not believe in the existence of God.
But fear the ones who have hated God and who doesn't believe in him anymore,
Cos they are the ones who fear not of what awaits him in the afterlife..